Emotional sadism vs the mind fuck
I do know an emotional sadist in real life; indeed, he and his slave wife are good friends of mine. And when he describes some of his more interesting punishments and just things that he does with his slave, I just cringe inside. I know, beyond doubt, that I cannot take emotional sadism... inside I would just shrivel up and die; it would destroy me. I'm not saying that it's wrong, just that it's not for me. But I do also think if you're going to be with a Master who is an emotional sadist, you have to have a very good sense of WHO you are, what your emotional landmines are and what pushes their buttons, and be very clear that this is for you and that you can survive this kind of treatment in a relationship.
Now a good mind fuck... that's just a blast ;)